Let’s face it—getting older comes with its perks. You can say whatever you want and blame it on age. You can wear socks with sandals and somehow look wise. But one thing that’s not so fun? Loneliness. It can sneak in like that one relative who always “just stops by” but somehow eats all your cookies.
Retirement sounds like a dream until you realize your coworkers were your social life. Suddenly, it’s just you, a plant named Steve, and reruns of “Matlock.” While Steve is a great listener, he doesn’t laugh at your jokes. Rude.
But fear not! The good news is that loneliness doesn’t have to stick around like a mystery meatloaf at a church potluck. There are plenty of ways to kick it to the curb—without having to download TikTok (unless you want to become an overnight sensation doing the Macarena in orthopedic shoes).
Start with the classics: call up an old friend. You’d be surprised how nice it feels to hear someone else’s voice, especially if they remember where they put their reading glasses. Join a local club or community group—book clubs, gardening circles, or even a walking group (aka competitive gossiping on the move).
Technology can be a friend, too. Yes, the internet can be confusing, but once you master it, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without cat videos and virtual bingo nights. There are even apps to meet new people—just steer clear of the ones where everyone is shirtless and suspiciously 40 years younger.
Most importantly, remember that feeling lonely doesn’t mean you’re alone. Lots of people are in the same boat, even if it feels like yours has a slow leak and no paddles. Reaching out—whether it’s to a neighbor, a grandchild, or the lady at the pharmacy who gives out free samples—can make all the difference.
So chin up, dear senior. Loneliness may visit, but with a little humor and a few friends (human or houseplant), it doesn’t have to stay long.